Friend Problems
Friends April 16th, 2008Yesterday, I wrote this post that wasn’t even about this girl. It was about an old friend that was having problems with a classmate, and I wrote a post in support of her. And NOW, this “girl” automatically thought that it was about her. I deleted the post to make her happy. And she told me today that I should “cut the act of being her friend”. I tried to explain to her that it had nothing to do with her, but she thinks everything’s always about her. So, I have done every thing I can to make this person happy. So I am so mad right now. She went off on me earlier about copying her, and now she is copying me.
Have you ever had an on-again, off-again BFF? If you have, leave a comment. Because I am really fed up and would love to hear how others deal with this. (This was at one part of a day but I don’t feel this way anymore.)
April 16th, 2008 at 2:47 am
Yes, u know i have these problems. I just say ignore them and let it blow over. people like that aren’t true friends anyways.
April 16th, 2008 at 2:48 am
oh, and thanx for your help yesterday it meant a lot 2 me
April 16th, 2008 at 3:57 am
If this girl was really a friend she would trust your friendship and believe you when you told her it wasn’t about her. Some people are more immature than others and think the access of the world is pointing out of their heads (the world revolves around them). If she keeps on being this way you may have to make a difficult decision and walk away from the friendship. Maybe she will learn from this you can’t treat people like that and to treat people how you want to be treated. You are such a good person with a good heart and I’m very proud of you. She’s probably copying you because she wants to be like you : )
April 16th, 2008 at 6:20 am
I have had a lot of “on again off again BFFs”. You have to be careful with who you label a BFF because anyone who is your friend one day and the next day doesn’t like you, is not really someone who is a true friend. You should read the book Friendship Hardship I saw it in your store and it is really good
April 29th, 2008 at 3:05 am
Thanks I think I’ll get that book cause’ it looks really good. Thank you for the info because I’ve been wanting to be BFFs again with a off-again on-again friend. Now I know not to get close to her…maybe friends????
June 30th, 2008 at 2:53 am
sweet
July 8th, 2008 at 7:00 am
I had a huge fight with my friend. After 2 years, I decided to talk to her. She ended up crying talking about all the hurtful things I had done. I didn’t even realize it. I apologized. I didn’t want to, but it was the right thing. Even though it happened a couple months ago, I think you should talk to your friend. Why would she all of a sudden go at you like that if their wasn’t hurt behind it. Now, I’m not saying that this was your fault. But, I’m saying that your friend might be hurt inside. My friend was. You need to talk to her. But, I don’t think it’s right to go back at your friend by posting it on the internet. Yes, this is your personal feelings, I understand that. But, this is a site where people come to. If they don’t hear her side, they gang up on her. It looks like they already are. I know that this is your site, your blog, but, they technical ter for what this is is internet bullying. I read it in a magazine. I think you should be ore careful what you type. Again, I understand this is yours, you can do whatever you want on it. I am just warning you. Your friend could get mad and you could lose her forever. And if you are fed up, why don’t you just not be friends with her. It would make your life, a whole lot easier. I am just trying to help you, as the teen I am, I was just shopping for a birthday gift for my sister and got interested with the rest, with my own life experiences. Now, that friend and I are inseperable. If you don’t like what I am telling you, don’t listen. I am just trying to help. I hope you do the right thing. That’s all I am saying, nothing more. And I am sorry if I offened you in any way. (Also, sorry If I have some grammar problems or spelling problems if it is incorrect, I am not that smart.)
July 9th, 2008 at 4:07 am
So true. You you SO much Elisa! That is a BIG help! I stopped by at her house with my mom, and I just told her how I felt and she told me hers’. It was really a dumb fight, we both made bigger. Thanks again Elisa!
July 9th, 2008 at 4:18 am
Your welcome. I’m glad you did that before. I am also glad my advice worked!
July 9th, 2008 at 8:15 am
Hi hun! I love your site! I’m a parent of a tween and I was just surfing the web with my daughter because she is having friendship problems too. Your site really helped her feel like she could relate to others and I wanted to say that it is in no way internet bullying. Because you don’t use anyone’s name, city, state, etc. It is very non-specific and vague and you were just posting your feelings. And that’s what blogs are for!!! You should keep posting your feelings because you are helping other tweens in the same situation. And we are so glad to hear that you worked everything out with your friend, that made my daughter feel a little better about their fight. Keep up the good work!